This is my adventure with yet *another* woman who fits the "Borderline Personality Disorder" description perfectly. For more information on this destructive, yet fairly unknown mental disorder, visit www.bpdcentral.com or www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com

Individuals who have this disorder typically:

1. try to be the center of attention.
2: have relationship problems and swing from love to hate very quickly
3. Will FRANTICALLY avoid real or imagined abandonment
4. See things in black and white (no grey areas)
5. Use projection as a defense mechanism to avoid being viewed as problematic. (I.e. A person with BPD will accuse you of being angry and/or depressed, even if no such feelings are evident. The feelings actually belong to the person with BPD and are "projected" onto the second party to avoid the "shame" a person with BPD feels for possibly being "flawed".

An excerpt from Google health:
https://health.google.com/health/ref/Borderline+personality+disorder

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Personality disorders are long-term (chronic) patterns of behavior that negatively affect relationships and work. The cause of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is unknown. People with BPD are impulsive in areas that have a potential for self-harm, such as drug use, drinking, and other risk-taking behaviors."

A warning to those who care for, or are related to a person with BPD, these people are mentally ill. They can be physically and verbally abusive, and you're self esteem, and self confidence will suffer the longer you stay around them. I quit my job to get away from it, and it's worth it. The best idea is to leave them alone completely, and let the experts deal with them. They are not your problem, nor your responsibility.. even though they will have you believe different. These people need professional help, and enabling them and being co-dependent upon them helps no one.
It's just drama...
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About 2 years ago I made a huge mistake. I dated a woman I worked with named Mary R. at Watson Furniture in Poulsbo Washington. For the entire time I was hanging out with this woman, things were always rocky. She would accuse me of doing things I wasn't, and stretch the truth about anything else.
    The truth is, I was just working, going to school, and trying to better my life. Meanwhile, she is getting high and drunk off her ass and doing nothing.
     She starts buying drugs, mostly marijuana, and having her daughter sell it to people at work, younger people that her daughter knows, all under the guise of "We need more money, I can't support us all on my paycheck", meanwhile continuing to drink at least $1,000.00 a month at the bars and casinos.
     One night, her daughter gets pulled over and caught with the drugs on her way to pick us up from the bar. Instead of taking the fall for her daughter, and fessing to being the owner of the drugs, this woman (Mary) lets her daughter go to jail for 6 months.
     Shortly after, I decide to leave the situation, but Mary doesn't want me to. She clings onto me desperately, even showing up drunk at my apartment at 2:00am sometimes, and banging on my door. At one point, when I told her I wanted NOTHING to do with her, I had met her at a casino to have a drink and "talk" about it. I put my foot down and told her to stay away from me.
    Upon leaving the casino, she chased me down the street. After passing the turn she would normally take to her house, I slammed on my brakes in hopes she would get the point. She did not. She kept following me. I went on the freeway eventually, heading out of town completely. She followed me. At some point, she tried to pass me on the freeway, so I got in front of her. She continued to get right on my rear, so I flashed my brake lights at her.
     She promptly slammed on her brakes, yanked the wheel to the right, and did a 360 degree slide into the left guard rail, ruining the left side of her car. People had subtly warned me about her, even some of her friends, and I was now trying to heed their advice, but it was too late.
     After all this, I decided enough was enough, and turned her and her friends in at work for doing and selling drugs on work property, for which she had to go to intense outpatient treatment, as she has a history of drug and alcohol abuse. (big surprise).
     A few of her friends got fired shortly after, and I became a subject of much debate and hatred, fueled by her. After a year and a half of drama at work, I could not take it anymore, and resigned my good job. She, the mother that lets her daughter go to jail for selling her drugs, still has her job, and still sells drugs.
     Another person was forced to quit their job after they invited him to their house, got drunk, and instigated a fight with him. I think this was mostly due to Shawna's (Mary's daughter) overly jealous boyfriend, but the fact remains, that there was no reason for the night to end the way it did. Yet still, her little goonie friends maintain that Mary is a saint... but that's only because she buys them drinks. Good luck Shawna! I hope you realize some day that your mom doesn't care about you or anyone else but herself.
    
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